A new marriage marks a new beginning - so there's every reason to celebrate! While it's not your first trip down the aisle, or maybe it is, it's the first time you're marrying each other. Therefore, you're entitled to have the kind of wedding that suits your age and lifestyle now.

What's right for you - Civil or nonsectarian ceremonies are popular for remarriages. Locations include private homes, judges' chambers, interdenominational chapels or historic sights. If you want a religious wedding, keep in mind that some faiths have special requirements for remarriage. When planning the reception, rely on experts to help organize it in a restaurant, club, hotel or private home.

What to wear - You have every right to look like a bride! White or ivory is a valid fashion choice; long or short, depending on the formality of the wedding. At a formal evening wedding, the groom wears black tie; for day, his choices can vary from formal wear to a blazer and slacks.

The guest list, who's to be invited - This should include the following: family of both the bride and groom; the couple's mutual friends and those who may have been close to either of you during your previous marriages and remained so; former in-laws, if you're still close to them. As long as you're all comfortable with that situation, there's no reason to exclude them. You may have a best man or honor attendant. Older children from your previous marriage may serve in that role or as bridesmaids and ushers.

A child's place - In the case of a second marriage, children from a previous marriage often feel excluded. There is a special ceremony called "Celebrating the Family" that could be done. During the wedding, the children are given a "Family Medallion" - three joined circles symbolizing a new family. Other ways to include your children are lighting a unity candle with the newlyweds or charing a cup - all symbols of merging families.

New gift ideas - Even if you feel you don't need traditional wedding gifts, you'll be surprised at how useful some of them may be, and something new can replace the old. Other gift ideas you may share with guest are season tickets to sports, musicals and theatrical events; a year of special wines, fruits or flowers to be delivered every month; something major may be purchased by a group of relatives.